Taking things personally limits you. It reduces our bubble of perception, and it starts becoming a blame game. We need to take a step back and remember that we’re all human beings and we’re all just trying to have this life experience together. We create our environment. Granted, there are some people out there that are decidedly one way, but for the most part, most people aren’t. If we’re gracious and bigger picture minded, then that’s the way others are toward them. I call this the bubble perception.
You can’t harbor negative feelings for if you do, that’s going to trigger some negative outcomes. In the moment of my boss yelling at me, I had a choice, I can either be the effect of this or I can reach up and manage this thing from above and become more of the cause. Your outcome is ultimately up to you. Even if you feel like you are taking things personally, if you have the bigger picture in mind, you’re able to get the other person to see it as well.
We trigger this in other people. It’s almost like a contest of will, to see who’s going to submit to who’s picture. Two people in the same conversation will eventually take on one or the other or will meet in the middle, but the two different perceptions cannot coexist between the two people if they’re in the same conversation. This creates a bit of a tug-of-war with a lot of people. But I believe you can get to a point in life, that you can become decidedly on the right side of this the empowered side of this. And yeah, other people will still impact you, and you will still take things personally, but you will be so deeply grounded in the bigger picture that you’re able to snap yourself out of it pretty quickly.
The person that feels good about themselves tends to be uplifting around other people. Choose what to focus on; sure there’s plenty wrong with me, but what’s right is my value. And to the degree that I can value myself, is to the degree that I can value others. This allows you to rise into a much more positive emotional state.
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Shane Krider is a successful personal development life coach, producer, speaker, author, and entrepreneur. Along with his wife, Shane is the co-host of Born to Prosper’s Mind Power, which is a self-help podcast which challenges its listeners to delve deep into their minds to find success. In addition, Shane travels the world in luxury to speak to aspiring entrepreneurs at conferences and workshops to inspire them to find their own pathways to success. Shane Krider is part of The Prosperity of Life Network, a United States-based personal development business with a presence in 52+ countries.